A father killed his son because he was gay!

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On Friday, Shehada Khalil Issa,69, of North Hills was charged with fatally shooting his son, Amir Issa 29, outside the family’s home earlier this week because he was gay, according to the Los Angeles district attorney’s office.

Reading that a father killed his 29-year-old son because he was gay immediately caused strong mixed emotions to surge through my body. The politically correct statement would be condemning the father for such a senseless act.  Killing his son just because he’s gay… Who would ever think…. Hold up… I’d be a hypocrite to act like I never said “I’d kill my son if he was gay” and I know I’m not alone. That’s an all too common response when I tell other fathers my son is gay. “Eddie, you’re a better man than me because I would kill my son…” Although the intentions are never really there to the point where the statement is taken seriously, after reading about this tragic situation, it shines yet another spot light on how serious it is.

About a month ago I felt the urge to write something to post after reading about the trial of Elliot Morales, who taunted Mark Carson and his partner Danny Robinson, saying “What are you, gay wrestlers?” before fatally shooting Mark Carson in the face on a Greenwich Village street.  I didn’t want people to start thinking, now that I’m releasing a book addressing this issue my intent was to be some new advocate for the LGBTQ community.  I’ve written a number of manuscripts intending to debut them as spiritual self-help books branding “Gangster turned Guru”, not expecting to come out as “Gangster turned fight for the rights of the gay community spokes man.”  And I’m not that… but I would be because first and foremost I’m a concerned father, and the thing is every time I read or hear about the unprovoked violence, specifically against gay men, reoccurring fears for my own sons safety pulls at my heart. Especially with Drew’s “Accept me as I am and if you don’t well fuck you!” attitude. I’m proud that he’s always had the courage to express who he is.  It’s the ignorance of other’s and how they’ll react that terrifies me, and one of the reasons why I chose “Voice for the Silent Fathers” to be my first release. Shehada Khalil Issa, the father who couldn’t overcome his own fears and prejudices, will now have to live with the choice of murdering his son Amir Issa for the rest of his life.

Supporting parents, specifically fathers of children in the LGBTQ community allows them to let down their macho man egotistical mindset, to come and find peace with acceptance of their loved one. I’m the first to admit I’ve made a lot of mistakes as a father, but I’ve had the opportunity to ask forgiveness for the hurt and pain I’ve caused my son in order for our relationship to heal. Reading about what this father did makes me reflect on how blessed I am to have such a wonderful meaningful relationship with Drew.  It’s something that I cherish.

Now there’s going to be plenty of people that will stand in support of this father that murdered his child just because he was gay.  Pats on his back, nods of respect from those claiming they would do the same thing and that groups not exclusive to men.  I’m naturally inclined to give women the benefit of being more enlightened, but all of them aren’t.  Shehada Issa might not show any remorse now, but there will come a time when those happy memories of his son Amir begin to haunt him, especially since Amir’s not coming back.

So for those who aren’t in contact with their children, parents, or friends just because they live a lifestyle that you may not particularly agree with, take a moment to be honest with yourself in asking if you have the courage to swallow your pride by not basing your relationship according to one’s sexual preference or identity, but instead on who that person truly is.

The bottom line is… We all share the one common denominator uniting us all… LIFE, from an all-inclusive, unconditional loving God.  Let me reiterate that… From an ALL INCLUSIVE, UNCONDITIONAL LOVING GOD!!  Allow that to be the foundation to build upon when it comes to your relationships.

~Eddie K Wright, Gangster to Guru!!

Article reference:

Los Angeles father accused of killing his son with a shotgun because he is gay:  http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/la-father-accused-killing-son-gay-article-1.2586050

Murder suspect gets to torment hate crime victim in court:

http://nypost.com/2016/02/23/homophobic-killer-says-gay-man-had-the-bullet-coming-to-him/

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VOICE FOR THE SILENT FATHERS is Eddie K. Wrights memoir detailing the controversial experience of being the young father of a son who would grow up to be the gayest man on the planet!  His “NO SON OF MINE!!” street gangster mentality evolves during his difficult life journey coming to realize that his responsibility as a loving father didn’t change just because his son is gay.

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OCEANSIDE CALIFORNIA, FEBRUARY 1, 2016 – The Wright Group, Project Management, will publish VOICE FOR THE SILENT FATHERS, Eddie K. Wrights memoir detailing the controversial experience of being the young father of a son who would grow up to be the gayest man on the planet!  His “NO SON OF MINE!!” street gangster mentality evolves during his difficult life journey coming to realize that his responsibility as a loving father didn’t change just because his son is gay. The book is scheduled for publication on June 1, 2016.

In his first memoir, Eddie shares his story of becoming a father at 18 years old who realized his son was showing ‘stereotypical’ signs of being gay while still in diapers.  Spending most of his adult life engulfed in the street gangster/hip hop culture where this subject was not only hushed, but deeply frowned upon, he gives us the voice for what’s been kept silent for far too long, confronting almost every aspect of this taboo topic.  It took years for him to silently accept his son’s homosexuality himself, regardless of all the signs.  When his son was five years old, his favorite color was pink and there was nothing Dad could do about it.  By the age of fourteen; he was an internet sensation, dancing on YouTube building his fan base to guarantee his success when performing as a drag queen a few years later.  Eddie addresses the questions most are scared to ask; Was there anything I could do to stop my son’s homosexuality? When did I know my son was gay? What made him that way?  Parents will find comfort in reading that Eddie admits that his son’s feminine behaviors embarrassed hi and he seriously contemplated abandonment, a choice that too many fathers feel they have to choose.

He shares witnessing the desperation in the eyes of fathers, from all walks of life, who have pulled him aside, away from listening ears wanting to know the answers to these frequently asked questions, agonizing the possibilities that their son might be gay.

“Wow, your voice is one that is rarely heard in this discussion and I for one am deeply appreciative for the insights you offered. My own father disowned me briefly as a teenager for being gay and like you was a man immersed in a macho world. Although he and I were never very close as he became ill and suffered the demise of cancer I was able to be there for him in a way that my other siblings couldn’t and I was able to, in the end, have a closeness with him that made all the distance between us for all those years irrelevant. Thanks for doing this.” ~Troy Lynch

Eddie has been writing for over 10 years while serving his Federal sentence for a street lifestyle that played a key role in his thought process regarding his gay son.  Using his writing and speaking skills as tools to inspire a positive way of living, this former gangster turned Guru brings his story of transformation to life in a way that makes it safe for parents and loved ones to discuss what they think and how they feel about their child living an alternative lifestyle.

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Excerpt: WTF? He’s playing with Barbies?

…Playing in the center of this little Powwow on the thick beige rug was Drew holding a Barbie doll in one hand, a brush in the other, stroking the hair of the female figure. I did a double take to make sure I was really seeing this, and then I did a quick spot check on the baby mammas Klan before I said a word looking at every one in the room with uneasiness.”Am I the only one that sees something wrong with this picture?”

“What the hell is wrong with you Eddie!” Jennifer was the first to attack.

“He’s just a kid, stop acting so macho!” came next from Jessica.

“Why does something have to be wrong because he’s playing with a Barbie doll?” barked Drew’s Aunt Katherine.

Billy didn’t say shit in my defense, looking at me with the eyes of a conquered man. Turning around I walked right out the house to wait for Drew, who got in the car about two minutes later.

“What’s that all about? God, Daddy,” he looked at me like I was crazy.

“You shouldn’t be playing with a fucking Barbie doll…  You’re a boy!”

“So?  There’s nothing wrong with it, I’m just having fun.”

Who told him that I wondered?

“What’s fun about brushing a doll’s hair? As a matter of fact, don’t answer that, I don’t want to hear it!”

“Aren’t we moody today?” he said with his exaggerated girlish voice.

“Drew!!”

“What?”

“Talk like a boy!” I shouted.

“This is just the way I talk.”

“If you’re going to talk like that then don’t say shit!” I slapped the steering wheel and pulled off.

Not another word was said during the ride. I wasn’t even mad at myself for yelling at Drew, feeling like that entire scene was a setup, showing me the type of behavior their pushing on him to get revenge somehow.

“We’re going to turn your son into a flaming queer!” Jennifer and her family’s voices were chanting in my head. They’re going to turn me away from my son is what I thought to myself…

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Excerpt: WTH? Porn on my mothers computer?

 

…The following day traffic was light coming home from the city so I arrived at my mother’s at 4:30 pm. Since I was early to pick up Drew for dinner plans, I decided to log on to the computer, surfing the web to pass the time until came home.

Out of nowhere, a pop-up showing two grown men shaking their bare asses were in my face, asking me to ‘click here’ to see more. At that moment, the dangers of the internet became real to me!

Quickly clicking off the ass shakers, I began to check which recent web pages had been accessed. There was a number of X-rated male porn sites, that a part of me wished to be a new fetish that my mother picked up.

I had seen enough!  Clicking off the computer, I called my mother.

“I was just on your computer Ma, and these homosexual web pages popped up on your screen.  Please tell me your investigating something for work.”

“Calm down Ed!  Drew was exploring those sites!  I forgot to mention it to you!”

“How could you forget something like that?  I’m probably going to have to pay a thousand dollars to get hypnotized so the memory can be blocked from my mind!”

“These things happen at this age, you can’t over react” she said.

“Who’s over reacting?  I’ve been responding to all of Drew’s antic’s pretty well as far as I’m concerned, but this shit is getting out of hand, I just can’t understand it!”, I said, pacing back and forth in her little voodoo room as I heard Drew announce himself coming through the door.

“Hey Dad!” he yelled.

“Give me a second, I’m on the phone” I answered.  “Mom he just go here and we’re going out to dinner, I’ll see you when I drop him off.’

“He’s just a curious adolescent son, don’t’ make a mountain out of a mole hill.”

I found myself hitting her with a sarcastic…  “Really?   I’ll see you later Mom!” hanging up the phone just as Drew walked in the room, embracing me with a hug.

Hugging him back, looking down at him pretending to be oh so innocent.

“You ready to go get something to eat?” I asked

“Yeah, can we go to Dave and Busters?

“If that’s what you want” I said as we headed out the front door.

Walking to the car contemplating what to say, how to bring it up, wondering what answers and solutions I have that would be compatible with logic in the mind of a 12-year-old.  I was coming up blank. As I sat in the driver’s seat, Drew closed the passenger door.

I started the car but hesitated before putting it in gear, turning to ask… “Drew are you gay?’

Looking back at me with utter surprise he quickly shouted back “No!” with a look in his eye’s like a deer caught in the head lights.

“If you are it’s all right, I understand and it will never change how much I love you.”

“I’m not gay dad, why would you even ask me that? ”

A long list of appropriate responses raced through my mind:  Dry humping your Uncle in diapers, favorite color was pink along with your favorite power ranger, talking like a girl, not wanting to play with boys in North Carolina, not to mention the dance routine that your stepmother told me about, but I just said…  “Well…  I was on Grams computer and some gay websites popped-up, I asked her about it and I’m pretty sure she is not the one who was visiting those sites” I explained.

After and awkward 3 second silence…  “I was just surfing the web and came across them so I just explored it.” he explained.

“Why are you exploring male porno sites and not the girl ones?”

“I went to some of them dad… I don’t know.”

It was clear that he was uncomfortable, shit I was uncomfortable. I just put the car in gear, rubbed his head and drove to the restaurant in silence.

We pulled into the parking space, stepped out of the car.

“Drew” I called “come over here.”

His eye’s locked on mine as he walked around the front of the Benz, I just opened up my arms and embraced him in the longest tightest hug I can remember ever giving him. He needed it just as much as I did because in that hug was an unspoken communication, that explained we were both unfamiliar with the situation as it is, with neither of us having the resolution.

We weren’t honestly facing the totality of the circumstances at this time, but the door had been cracked.

The “Pink Elephant” was in the room, but neither of us were prepared to discuss it. I asked him if he was gay and he said no, that’s all I wanted to hear. That hug was to reassure him that even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, we would find a way to make it through together. Until that pink elephant starts stepping on our toes, I’m not going to bring it up, hopefully he wouldn’t either. We enjoyed our dinner that night, just the two of us (and the pink elephant). The inquiring made us both uncomfortable, but to a degree I could sense he felt some relief.

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A reminder of WHY I needed to write this book!

Today, while speaking at my weekly spiritual meeting, expressing the proud fact that I’m preparing to launch my book about being the father of a gay son who I accept and love unconditionally, I was unexpectedly interrupted…
“How the hell can you condone that!” a member of the group shouted with such hostility and anger that a wave of heat engulfed my body, igniting my adrenaline as my past gangster defense mechanisms prepared for a physical attack, recognizing the hatred in the eye’s of the one who spat the question.

Keeping my cool, I calmly responded.
“I love my son unconditionally, and I want him to be happy living his life, what ever way he chooses”.

“That’s why the world is so fucked up!!” he fired back, continuing his tirade “men are holding hands, kissing each other in public, I don’t want to see that shit and my kids shouldn’t have to see it either. It’s sick and it’s every where, on TV these dam reality shows are all promoting homosexuality.”

“Ok, I hear you” I replied ” and your free to have your opinion, it’s your right, but that same freedom applies to others also. There not affecting you so…”
“They are!! I don’t want to see that perverted shit!” he yelled.

“Hold up, there are some people that don’t like those long ass dreads your wearing, claiming there dirty and smell, so since they have an opinion about that should you be forced to cut them off?” I asked.

“That’s not the same thing” he said shaking his head with a slight sucking of his teeth.

“Not exactly” I responded “but the same argument your making because you don’t agree with the way an individual chooses to live their life, sounds similar to arguments made in the 60’s and 70’s when blacks and whites started being more open with there relationships or when a white woman kissed a black man of TV for the first time. That got a lot of people angry and you sound similar to them.”

“Here you go again Eddie, with your extreme analogies, comparing apples to oranges.”

“No, I’m trying to get you to view things from a different perspective and encourage you to have a more open mind, without being so judgmental of what you may not understand.”

“I understand. It’s wrong and I’m done talking about it.” he said looking both directions for someone to agree with him. No one did.

Changing the topic and moving on with our meeting, I thought about how some people would be against a book saying it’s all right to love your homosexual child.

When I see people on the news holding signs reading “God hates fags!”, actually spending their time painting those hurtful words, along with the hostility that was radiating from the one member of our group, it reminded me that although society as a whole has come a long way with acceptance and tolerance for the equal rights and freedom of the LGBT community, there’s still a lot of work to be done in this new coming year of 2016.

I look forward to doing my part.

Happy New year!!

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